Tuesday, 24 May 2011

Looking For Love But Thinking Twice About The Dating Game

That's it. OK. Right. I have definitely decided. Yes why not? I am going to have a determined look at some dating sites. After yet another night out on my own it is time to take action. I need a cuddle.
There must be a woman somewhere, who would be interested in meeting a short, fat, aged, balding bloke with no money, no prospects, and not a lot of hope. Who said the mental asylum?
Surely there are women out there who are desperate to live the simple life. I bet there are thousands of them clamouring to live in a wooden wagon, built from reclaimed timber. Hmm.. Maybe best not to mention the wagon.
I suppose if I do go ahead and join a dating agency, I ought to make them aware that I am perfectly happy with this alternative, frugal, lifestyle, apart from the lack of female company obviously, and am far to old to change my ways, even if I was inclined to do so. Which I am not. Having said that, I suppose a little bit of compromise would be required if things are going to work out.
I wonder if it would be appropriate to mention what a fantastic lover I am. No. Perhaps best to let them find that out for themselves. I said them, obviously I meant her. Freudian slip.
As I sit here, thinking about my chances of meeting the woman of my dreams, it has occurred to me that thus far in my life, I have demonstrated time and again, an abject failure to maintain a long term relationship of any worth. Although I somehow manage to remain on friendly terms.
In the past I have always entered into relationships, expecting them to fail. Not even giving them a chance to grow and flourish. I know why this is. It's because I am unable to believe that anyone would really love me. I've always felt that I don't have much to offer. Which is true. I don't
It's all down to the way we are brought up I think. If you have parents with aspirations, then it follows that some of those aspirations will rub off onto you. My parents only ambitions in life, if indeed they had any, didn't include their children. In fact it didn't even include each other most of the time. Now there you are you see. I've got myself thinking I'm talking nonsense. Because obviously I would want my children to do well.
But I have to face up to the fact. I have never really pushed myself in life. I've always been quite happy with what I've got. Never hankered after the so called good things in life. Never wanted a big house or a top of the range car. I suppose someone with my attitude to life is going to struggle to meet a woman with expectations of a normal comfortable existence.
Listen to me rambling on. Now where was I? Oh yes, I was talking about dating sites wasn't I? Well thank heavens I allowed myself to get sidetracked. It's given me time to think about it. How lucky I didn't rush into joining one. It's patently obvious that they're not for people like me. Best to knock all that nonsense on the head. Why was I even thinking about it?
Phew! That was a close call!
I might just take a quick look though. Can't do any harm can it? Besides it's a bit unfair of me to deprive the ladies of such a wonderful opportunity.
I'll let you know how I get on.


  1. You always give me such a giggle. Go on have a go at the dating sites. My neighbours husband walked off with another woman and the neighbour found a new fellow on one of those sites. He seems a nice fellow too.

  2. You are a musician of sorts. Here in this country that means you have your pick of all the females in the area! (I used to manage a band. I was the best friend of all those females every night.) I did have a chuckle about your life's aspirations. I never wanted to be anything but a mother. I never cared about money because it really isn't worth anything to me. I have a friend who met someone online and ended up marrying him. He had a lot of us fooled. He only needed a mother for his children. He had other women for companionship. So if you decide to meet someone online, keep your eyes open and get to really know her before committing. I have a feeling that right now you are only looking for someone to be available when you feel lonely. I don't mean that in a bad way at all. Anyway good luck. By the way, I posted an answer to your question about geocaching at the magazine. Hope it helps.

  3. I am going to give it a go Diane. Just as soon as I gather the courage.
    I think the musician angle might work with the younger set Emma. As to your other comments all I can say is that you are a very wise woman, and I shall take heed of your words.

  4. Wooden wagon? I think you mean Handcrafted Romany caravan.
    Alternative frugal lifestyle? I think you mean Treading the Earth lightly and living in harmony with Mother nature!!!
    Jane x
    PS had to post as anonymous as Blogger is having 'issues' with some people's comments procedure. Jane and Chris at the Maple Syrup Mob.

  5. I know quite a lot of people who have met their significant others online. Go give it a go I'd say. Your posts are great.

  6. I didn't grow up with many aspirations either. I guess my parents never actually told me I was worth it, it's just something I've learned as I've gotten older. So I say go for it and take a look!